More about Jesslyn... opps

We have always been entertained by Jesslyn's mischievous answers. She is a language person. Her PR is also very good. She has a way in avoiding reprimands and beatings by looking at you sweetly, hands clasped at her chest with her head tilted slightly and darting eyes. Sometimes, she grins so hard that her eyes become a line only.
She is also an expert in avoiding working on her books. To buy time, she'll ask me numerous questions (to confirm the answer) before she draws on the paper. For example, "Mummy, is it like this? Mummy, I draw here? I use this pencil?" I must say that I am bias for not being tough on her as I would be on Jerilyn for wasting time. Normally, she would say that the exercise is difficult. One day, she completed a maze within seconds and said "Mummy, you see? This is easy." However, I did not tell her that she got it wrong. Look at the far right. At first, she used a pencil. Then, a red marker.

She does not like her sister to touch her stuff. This includes her Sesame Street schoolbag. One day, she scolded her sister " Wei... wei....wei(in Chinese)... don't spoil my school bag.... Always spoil my school bag." and snatched the bag away. Same goes with many other things, the moment her sister holds an item, she snatches it and claims "I want to use it."

A mini fun-fair has been set-up recently near my in-laws place. Upon seeing it, she said "Wow! Look at the merry-go-round. It is so big. I want to go to the playground." I told her "It's fun-fair, not playground." She replied immediately "I THOUGHT it's playground?" I was surprised she knows this bold word. Other than that, she used 'actually' as in "ACTUALLY, I want that. " when I asked her "Do you want this?"

I don't think attending school next year would be a problem for her as she loves to send Jerilyn to school every morning. Leaving her in the car means tantrums from her. She loves to see the teachers; calling them and waving at them. One day, she said to her Jie2 "Be careful" at the school gate and turned around. How touching! I swear I have never said that to Jerilyn before while sending her to school.

She adds SILLY to reprimand anyone for doing the 'wrong' thing. For example, "Daddy didn't take this, silly boy." "Mummy, you silly girl. You ...." "Why you turn here? You silly boy."(Daddy used another route instead of the usual route.

In addition to her list of cheeky answers, she knows 'Sam Chi Keng' (something to do with Chinese proverbs), and a few 'adult' songs. The songs are: You are my Sunshine and Sealed with a Kiss. She only needs to listen to a song or anything melodious a few times and 'snap', she can sing. She is the one who corrects Jerilyn singing.
The video below shows her ability to read multiplication(x2) in Mandarin.


The picture below is her work. When she uses the pencil, the lead easily breaks. I do not allow her to use the 'magic colour' because she will end up pushing the sticks in. 2 unusable magic colours is too much for me! As you can see from the left picture below, she is quite detailed when colouring. She chooses the spots to colour. Unlike Jerilyn who just sweeps the colours across the pictures. Moreover, she has better control as she doesn't colour out of line as badly as Jerilyn.

Jesslyn on the Piano

Although Jesslyn cannot play any music piece, but I see potential in her. First of all, her feminine, good look gives me the 'I am a musician' impression. Excuse me for being superficial. Secondly, she has quite good control of her fingers when she taps on the keys. She can press from one key to another with her thumb, up to the fourth finger without overlapping. Thus, the clear, distinct sounds. She is only 2+ years old.

Jerilyn too has the potential as she knows how to improvise. The Happy Birthday piece I downloaded begins with G note. However, after I removed the letters on the keys, she started playing her own way. She uses C note. Very creative.

Graffiti

Guess where this was drawn on?

TA-DA!!I was shocked to see that when I stepped into the house. But, surprisingly, I didn't scold them. In fact, I was quite pleased with the drawing. It decorates the otherwise dull, empty wall. I was surprised how Jerilyn could draw such a big picture. As you can see below, the picture is so much higher than her. And the details, how long did it take her to draw it? Where was my dad when she drew? What was he doing? Did he scold? These were the questions running in my head.

I asked her 2 questions:

1. Where was Gong2? She pointed to the couch. My dad must be engrossed in a drama while she was at her mischief.

2. Why did she drew it? She answered "BEcause I want to make the wall pretty."

Filial Girl

Jerilyn has always been a filial girl when it comes to respecting the oldies. Much so after my mum's incident.
For instance, recently, my dad's blood pressure shot up because of the stress from baby-sitting the kids. I told her that if she continues to be naughty, Gong2 won't take care of her. Her eyes were red when I said that. Since then, she has been 'less naughty'. She also told me that she is good and hasn't made Gong2 sick lately.
Because of this too, I have requested my in-law to take care of the kids once a week so that my dad can take more rest. Other than that, Hubby and I have taken turns to apply leave from work more often. Actually, hubs company is experiencing a slowdown in business, thus, the forced leave. Anyway, it's a blessing in disguise. So, one day, while my dad was driving her to her grandma's place, she asked "where is Mei2?" When she knew that her sister was already in the grandma's place, she didn't want to go. My dad was curious why. She explained "Ah Mar is old. She cannot take care of two kids." Dad was surprised. So was I. I thought, if my late mother knows how filial her grand-daughter is, she would surely be very pleased.
'Til now, my mum is still very much alive in my household. The kids often talk and sing about her. Birthday songs are dedicated to her, gifts are often said to be presented to her etc...
Last week, she asked again "Why do you cry Mummy? Why do you always cry-Po2, Po2?.... I also always think about Po2 but I don't cry..... Dont cry Mummy. Po2 is not happy if you cry."
I had given a journal topic to my students, which I myself wish it happens "If I could turn back time..."

Threats

My girls are beginning to threaten me if I do not do as they say. For instance,
1. Jerilyn wanted to play with something but I did not allow. This was what she said "Don't play... don't play. Next time, I don't want to give you ang pow." I assume that she won't give me any 'allowance' when I am old and frail.
2. they wanted to use the tub for bathing which I did not allow. Jesslyn said "Next time, you don't swimming(bathe) me. I don't want you to swim me. I want Daddy swimming me." I was more than happy to hear that. haha.... However, hubs was still in the office. So, they were forced to bathe with me.

This morning, Jerilyn looked dull so I tried to lighten the mood "Hello, pretty." Her answer "Hello, ugly woo..man." Not angry.

New Song

Jerilyn's first song.


After playing the same song for two weeks, I have tried to introduce a new song to Jerilyn - Rain, rain, Go Away.

After struggling for a few times, she went back to Happy Birthday because that's the song she can play. She boasted that she does not need the notes anymore. It's amazing how interest can motivate her so much to play it by heart. Yes, she can play the song by just looking at the keys with 1 or 2 wrong keys.

So, we turned back and forth between the two songs. I tried to teach her fingering and reading notes. When she could not use the right finger, I started to raise my voice and when I did, she began to shut off from me. Looking down, not listening, no response.... I knew that we(to be exact, I) had to stop. So, the 2 of us sat quietly for a moment. After 1 minute, I encouraged her to try again. She did.

I was wondering why she had to use finger 1 and 5 (she should use 5th and then 4th)to move from G to F notes. The most possible answer is that she could only coordinate her fingers this way. Thus, I told myself to let her use any fingers at the moment. I reminded myself that she is only 4. Therefore, I only taught her how to read notes. Not bad for the first day, she knows and remembers which are F and D notes. She is able to memorise 40% of the song too. i think she prefers to memorise playing than to learn reading the notes. Whichever way, I am happy she is playing.

Bossy

I was busy googling when this caught my attention:
"Jie2, I said thank you to you." After a while, she repeated again. This time louder. The same sentence was repeated 4 times and each time, it was louder and more firm. I could not take it 'til I had to call out to Jerilyn "She is talking to you." to which Jerilyn said softly "Ok Mei2." Jesslyn was not satisfied with the answer "Jie2, I said thank you to you." This time, Jerilyn too raised her voice and that shut Mei2 up.

This is Jesslyn. The loudest, firmest person in the family. I am not sure if I have jotted this down but when
1. she was on the phone with Daddy and she could not hear him, she put up her index finger over her mouth "SHHH... SHHH... SHHHH.... I cannot hear.", walking around as if she was having a million dollar business conversation. Sometimes, she complains about either one of us not letting her take the call.
2. I asked her not to take out all the books from the drawer. She replied angrily "I just want to see."
3. I asked both of them to keep their toys before we went out for dinner. Jesslyn ordered her sister after a while "Jie2, you keep. Quickly before Mummy beat you. There, another one. Quickly." Jerilyn did not utter a word while frantically put everything in a bucket. All she wanted was to go out.

Little Mozart

Last week, I took Jerilyn for a haircut. While waiting for the busy hair-dresser, I went next door to check out the music academy. The first impression put me off. I rang the bell twice and an unwelcoming lady greeted me with "Mut Yea Xi". I felt like a salesgirl all of a sudden. Anyway, we went in, asked about piano lessons etc. She said as Jerilyn is only 4yo, she has to start with Little Mozart. The books looked easy yet complicated. I asked if she could start with classical music instead. 'No' was the answer. This made me even more uneasy with her. Most importantly, I just do not like her, thus I do not like whatever she said.

We left, determined not to take any music lessons from this academy. From then, I was also determined to teach Jerilyn to play a piece. :p Thanks to the teacher, my kid is playing her first song after 2 weeks of practice. I want to prove that she is wrong. Kids at 4 can play. Some argued that the basic knowledge of fingering and keys are important and one should start with that. They may be right but without the interest, it will take double the time to learn that. Therefore, I started my kid with a song she is familiar with.

Initially, I only gave her one of my old books and never bothered to really show her how to play - which key, which finger. Then, I realised without a purpose, she would not learn. Now, she has a purpose to play ie that is to play for her Ah Yee and grandma.

This will make fingering lessons easier. Gambateh!

1st song

I had tried introducing piano to Jerilyn for quite some time but there was not much progress until recently.

I got the idea of writing the notes on the keys after watching a friend's video in FB. After 2 weeks, this is what Jerilyn can play.

I am quite satisfied with her progress although the timing is not accurate. The very next day after this recording. she practised on playing without reading the notes.

She is very motivated to learn this song after I told her that her Ah Yee's birthday is fast approaching and she can play the song to her. (Hope Daddy is not offended as his birthday is half a month sooner than Ah Yee's). Other than that, she is more than happy to play for her grandma. At first, she complained that the piano is too big and heavy to bring to her Ah Ma's house to which I replied that we could record it down instead. Thus, working hard on the keyboard since last week.

Enjoy the not-so-perfect song.

2nd Chance

Can you see the cross? Jerilyn was marked wrong for 'wrong' match for BM paper. There is an extra line from the picture yoyo to the ball.
As a lecturer, I might have done the same to teach the student a lesson so that they would be more careful in their test. But, as a mother, I felt that I have to fight for my kid's interest. More importantly, she got the answer - drawing a line from the picture to the word. If the line was from 1 picture to 2 words or 2 pictures to a word, it's wrong. In this case, it's just a picture to another.
Hubby told me to let it be. If I were to let it be, I don't think I can sleep for nights. So, I wrote a note to the teacher. After two days, the teacher returns the paper with the amendment. No more complaints.

First Assessment

Jerilyn had her first assessment a month ago and I have been anxious with her results. Below are her results:
Bahasa Malaysia 96%(100% after amendment)
English 96%
Mandarin 100% (this is questionable)
Mathematics 96%
Science 100%
Moral 100%

When she showed me her first paper, which was the Science paper, I was overwhelmed with delight. Although I expected her to do well in all her subjects but seeing the red '100' on a test paper has a magical effect on not only me I believe but on all parents.

I have a feeling I am going to be one of those 'kiasu' Malaysians even though I do not wish to be like them. I do not want to compare who scores higher marks, who has more 'A's, who is in the 'smart' class and who is not and who is number 1 in the class. Competition is good only if parents do not demoralise any kids. There are parents who compare and condemn their own children for not doing as well as the cousin or friend.

Ops... there I go again judging other parents.

What your child wants?

Being a language teacher/lecturer, I have the privilege to learn about the teenagers thoughts and feelings. As they are asked to write journals and essays, they tend to be more vocal with their feelings. I realise that many parents do not know what their children want and sadly, many children are neglected.
So, what do children want? Very simple, they just want someone to talk with; someone who will listen to them instead of being talked to. Yes, they want toys, they want branded goods and lots of money to spend. But, more importantly, they want the parents attention. Most of my students' parents work out-station and hardly have time for their kids. Thus, the kids end up spending most of their time in front of the idiot box from day to night. Ironically, parents often complain that their children do not speak to them. Some of my students wish to own dogs because they are lonely and need something to talk with. How sad. Why is this happening?
I have seen parents who lavish their kids with the latest gadgets from PS2 to iphones to ipads. Apparently, ipads are educational. It may be if it is used wisely. You do not just throw a gadget to your kid and allow her to spend hours with it without any human communication. To me, it's an excuse for the parent to be left alone.
A recent part-time Indonesian maid told me that she has been here for 6 years. I asked her why hasn't she gone home. Her reason was she wants to save for her daughter. How old is the daughter? I was expecting a teenage girl but No... she is only 7, which means that the mother has left the daughter back home soon after her 1st birthday. To me, it's very sad that the mother thinks that money can replace her when the child needs her most. I was very direct with her (though it was only our 1st encounter) that although money is important but the mother's presence is more important and she cant earn all the money in the world.
In another case, a mother was showing her teenage girl news about how run-away teenagers made their parents sad. The mother was hoping that her daughter would understand her mother's point of view. In response, the daughter said "If a child runs away, it's the parents' doing." When the mother told everyone in her family, they pitied her and thinks that the daughter is wrong. On the other hand, I agree with the child. [You should see my husband's response when I agreed.] Just because the girl said that doesn't mean she is bad. Some parents cannot accept the fact that they have done wrong or they are the ones who pushed their children away. This particular mother has always been authoritarian and harsh on her kids. She often complains about her children to relatives IN FRONT of the kid. To me, it's wrong because kids nowadays have very thin skin. They want respect and be treated like an adult. As the saying goes, 'do not wash your dirty linen in public.' Recently, she has transferred her teenage daughter to another school because a guy in school has been sms-ing her day and night. The mother could not stop the sms-ing thus she transferred her. I was shocked upon hearing this. How many schools can you jump to? This is running away - running away from facing the problem. I wish I know about this earlier so that I can talk to the mother. When the opportunity comes, I hope I can enlighten her before another kid runs away from home.

Updates

At 2y5m old, these are the issues to highlight about Jesslyn:

• Recently, she has more interest in writing and I took this opportunity to teach her. She could write 'H', 'E' and 'J'. She claims that she can write 'A' and 'N' but you won't be able to recognise the letters. :)
  
• She can trace dotted lines very well.
  
• She can recognise number 1-10 now (finally).
• Talking is still her favourite activity. You give her a book with pictures, she can relate a story based on the picture. At the same time, she asks "Why?" You give her a book with words, she tells you a story as if she is really reading.
• she has good memory. One morning, she learnt to write 'E' and I nonchalantly asked her after work what had she learnt to write that morning. She could tell me almost instantly 'E'.
• She has no interest in reading yet in the sense that she cannot recognise a single word. Occasionally, she strikes the word 'cat' and 'dog'.
  

What can a 4y4m old achieve? Jerilyn

• can read and write in English pretty well.
  
• knows less than 20 chinese characters.
  
• has interest in learning Bahasa Malaysia. As her English is strong, she has no problem learning pronunciation and recognising BM words.
  
• able to do very basic calculations involving numbers below 5.
  

Other than achievements, here are some of the negative traits Jerilyn has.

1. She lies when she has done something wrong. She puts the blame on Jesslyn most of the time.
   
2. She has the habit of putting things into her mouth and nibbling them.
3. She is stubborn as a mule; a rebel esp when I am tough on her.

Frankly, not that I am bias but Jesslyn does not have bad habits like Jerilyn. Jesslyn is more of a people person. Before you can get tough with her, she grins and make adorable faces that just melts your heart. She loves to get close to us (but not to Jie2), sitting with us and hugging us. This morning, I held her hand as she learned to write 'S'. Upon completion, she was so overwhelmed that she came to me and whispered 'I love you, Mummy' while wrapping her arms around me. When I scold the elder, the younger is quiet and mind her own business. On the other hand, when I scold the younger, the elder will become protective and start scolding me, saying that I am naughty for scolding her sister. I do appreciate Jerilyn's protectiveness over her sister. I hope she will do the same in school.

New semester

My new semester has commenced last week and my dad is ready to call it quits. I come home everyday to sighing and numerous complaints from my dad. Below are some of the things he complained about:

• They play hang-man using the skipping rope from the stairs.
• They squeezed half a packet of sweetened drink onto the floor.
• Although being told to stop taking too much M&Ms, the kids turned a deaf ear on him and in less than a week, they finished almost 200g of it.
• They threw stuff into the toilet bowl ie broken crayons and paper stars. Nadi, sorry to say this but Jerilyn broke the glittering crayons.
  
• Jerilyn played with water for more than 10minutes. She claimed to be washing the bottle.
  
• They open the fridge for countless times every day.
  

All these do not happen with me around. He complains that they esp Jerilyn won't listen to him.
Dad is loud... but he is not firm. How to tell him that?

Trip to Sydney (Week 2)

25/4/2011 - Day 8
A drizzly day. In the morning, we took the kids to a park where they fed the ducks. Simple activity like this can make their day and I am happy with their new experience.
In the afternoon, Nana took me (Yup! Me alone) to Parramatta Shopping Centre, leaving the kids and Daddy at home while grandpa visited his sister. I spent and spend I did. More clothes for everyone, books, toys and easter egg chocs. Purchasing power here is quite high. You can get wearable clothes for the price as low as AUD10/pc. A large Mocha at Gloria Jeans only cost less than AUD6.

26/4/2011 - Day 9
Another drizzly day. We had to change our plan from going to the city to Westfield Shopping Centre. Although Parramatta looks more exclusive than Westfield, its prices are more affordable than Westfield's. No wonder there are more shoppers at Parramatta. Didn't buy much but it wasn't all lost and no gain. Jerilyn saw Ben 10 mascot today. She heard of Ben 10 but never a fan. All of a sudden, she is a fan of Ben 10. Haha...

27/4/2011 - Day 10
When we left the apartment, it was already drizzling. However, by hook or by crook, we had to compete our itinerary. We took a train down to the city to the Aquarium and Wildlife. From outside, they were nothing to desire about but once you are in, you get some pretty surprises. Here are some photos:



28/4/2011 - Final Day
Being the final day, we relaxed at home and did some final shopping. I don't know how cheap are vitamins in Australia but Dad bought kilos of them. My luggage was packed with chocolates (>10kg) and cosmetics. Overall, our luggage was more than 90kg.

Trip to Sydney (Week 1)

Sis Juliana had always pestered me to visit her but I had my doubts and worries. They include the high exchange rate (1:3) and the inconveniences of travelling with two young toddlers. So, what changed my mind? I can still recall goggling AirAsia's website and was pressured by the cheap fares and the seats were taken up so quickly day-by-day as if it's market sales. At the spur of the moment, I click on the purchase button and booked 5 tickets to GC. I didn't even discuss with anyone before deciding. I called my hubby a minute before confirming the booking just to ask him if he can take 2 weeks leave from work and I only told my dad about the trip the next day. The return tickets for 5 persons (child above 2y is charged full price) is +RM3000.

After planning and preparing for 2 months, we were pretty much prepared to fly. Hubs however, only packed his clothes the night before flying.

16/4/2011-DEPARTURE
We took the 1.30 bus from Ipoh to LCCT. It stopped at KLIA and finally reached LCCT at 5pm+. Took a simple, yet extremely spicy dinner. Boarded the plane at 9.30pm. The kids didn't give any problems except when they were awaken in the middle of their sleep. Jesslyn woke up at 2am when most of the passengers were also snoozing. Imagine a scene when the sleeping draculas come alive one by one, putting their heads up. She quietened down after a long 5minutes. About an hour later, it was Jerilyn's turn. My biggest worry was if Jesslyn pee in her pants. You see. her last pee was at 7pm in LCCT. Thank God she did not have any urge until we landed at Coolangatta Airport, Gold Coast at 7am. Phew!

17/4/2011-ARRIVAL
To cut the story short (I have 8 days to update), we arrived at Sydney International Airport after dusk. Talking about it, I wish our journey starts now as I am blogging. Ahhh.....

18/4/2011 - Day 1
After travelling for 2 days, Nana planned a relaxing, easy-going itinerary for us. We shopped at DFO shopping mall. Being the 'must buy' type, I bought 2 books and 4 sets of clothes for the kids. I was surprised how cheap the books are over here. Mind you, the books are made of good quality papers ie hard cover or glossy, which is exactly what my naughty kids need. The content is also commendable.

19/4/2011 - Day 2
The highlight of the day was Easter Show. We were there from 11am to 2pm. The 4 of us cost > AUD90. My dad didn't go. He would not enjoy such programme. Initially, we were undecided whether to get the whole day tickets or after 5pm tickets. A carnival normally takes only a few hours to cover every part. However, this is different. Its such a major event that you need a map so that you don't miss anything. In the end, I decided to get the whole day tickets as I wanted the kids to watch some Australia's farm animals. Some of the animals we saw were dogs, sheep, cows. Hmm... not many huh? My main purpose(my sis's too) was the showbags. There are so many to choose from. I was an excited little girl again. Nana too. In the end, we settled for Sesame Street and Dora the Explorer showbags. Each bag cost AUD22.
What do you get for RM75? ONE Disney Princess trolley bag itself may cost RM75. Here, I get 4 bags!! However, we did not get it because the actual colours are dull and used as compared to what you see here.

20/4/2011 - Day 3
Good weather. We took a train from here to the city. Upon reaching the Central Station, we walked a distance in the city to our first station which was Peppers Lunch. I am no food critic so, I won't write about it. After that, we walked and snapped some photos of the city. Pity Daddy had to carry exhausted Jesslyn. After It seemed like forever, we reached Sydney Tower. We spent maybe about 45 mins before we headed towards the Central Station direction. Before leaving, we watched a short movie, sitting on a motion chair. Jerilyn was emotionless while Jesslyn was crying from time to time while sitting on my lap. On crucial moments, she lowered my hands to cover her eyes. After that, we stopped at the Paddy's Market and Chinatown. We spent on key-chains, bookmarks and tea towels for souvenirs to colleagues and relatives. Hubby and I are happy that our 'job' is done.

21/4/2011 - Day 4
By Day 4, sis had sore throat and a slight fever. It was a quiet day for us to recharge. The kids too, did not want to go out.

22/4/2011 - Day 5
WE went to Sydney's Fish Market. As it's Good Friday, which means it's a public holiday, the market was super crowded(according to BIL). The sellers are mostly Chinese. There was a variety of seafood, the size 3-4times bigger than the ones we can get in Malaysia.

23/4/2011 - Day 6
Shopping day which is also my favourite day. Nana took us to Parramatta Shopping Centre. I didnt buy much as the kids were not very cooperative that day. I bought some children's clothes from Target and some books. However, sis Nana marked a few shops that I must visit the next time I go.
In the evening, we gathered at a relative's house. I was looking forward to this gathering as the last time I met cousin Susan, both of us were not married yet. Now, she has a girl and a boy who coincidentally were born in the same years as my kids.

24/4/2011 - Day 7
So far, the weather has been extremely good to us. Sis Nana said it had been raining almost every day the week before we came. Today, we took 2 ferries to Manly Beach mainly because we bought a Explore 4 in 1 package that includes Manly Oceanworld. The package cost AUD50/person. The other 3 items are Sydney Tower (done), Sydney Aquarium and Sydney Wildlife. The Manly Oceanworld was a letdown. There were not variety of sea creatures. Its main attractions are the sharks and turtles. One particular turtle swims 2 times faster than the sharks. Those sharks must be as old as the aquarium.
The beach is welcoming. Jerilyn especially, loves it. It was the 2nd time Jerilyn had been to a beach and played with sand. As we are not frequent beach goers, Jerilyn and Jesslyn only sat and filled their bucket with sand. Simple as it is, the kids did not seem to mind the
'game'. I must compliment its fine, smooth, sandy sand.

The 1st was taken in Lumut, Perak. I was worried as I walked on the littered beach. The stones were edgy. The 2nd was taken at Manly Beach.
I was guilty I only allowed the kids to enjoy the beautiful sand for less than half an hour. We had no choice as we had to cover the Opera House as well. I was not very keen about seeing the Opera House as to me, it's just a building but as the saying goes 'Not visiting [this landmark] means not visiting Sydney.' There are some cool pics of the kids as shown below:

Writing

Every mother tends to compare their children's achievement. I am no exception. I always have the perception that Jesslyn is slower than Jerilyn academically. At 27 months, Jesslyn still can't recognise all the 26 letters and numbers. She mixes up animals and colours. Nevertheless, I have never been anxious with that. Is it because Mummies usually have higher expectations from the 1st child? However, being born in December, something has to be done to prepare her for school life. She has less than a year before she joins a montessori next year. She will be put with the 4yo while she is barely 3yo. Will she be left behind? Will she be bullied? Will she be prepared mentally, emotionally and physically for 4yo classes? Below is 1 of the beginning 'official' lessons I just had with her. I had to prompt her a few times to complete the exercise as after circling each number, she says "Finished". (how lazy) As compared to Jerilyn, she has better grip than her sister. She is steadier when it comes to writing. One could hardly see Jerilyn's writing when she was this age but Jesslyn pressed the pencil so hard that it looks like she will puncture the paper. When it comes to talking, she can babble non-stop. She can be very arrogant and demanding. For example:

• She asked for a pencil and I gave her a colour pencil, she scolded "Hey, I said pencil what?!"


• I asked her to pass a paper to her sister, her reply was "You take it. I am holding a pen."(both her hands were occupied).


• Jerilyn snoops at her at work, she instructed (just like the way I do) "You do your work."


• She scribbled her own flesh and asked "Eh? Who did this?" I pretended to be ignorant to which she proudly said "It's me!"(pointing at herself)


• She seeks attention by making sure that her pitch is 1-2 levels higher than us esp when we are engrossed in conversations.


• She doesnt like to be disturbed when doing her big business. She says "Dont disturb me. I want to poo-poo. Go away."

Random Thoughts

One fine day, I thought to myself: Jerilyn needs more pants for school so, I bought 2 pairs as shown in the photo. However, to my surprise, she pushed the idea away when I asked her to put 1 pair in her school bag. She said "Later, people will ask me 'why you wear pajamas to school'." Therefore, 'til now, she only wears those pants to bed.

Jerilyn can be quite a persistent salesperson. About a week ago, Jesslyn was down with flu. At first, I let it be hoping that the flu would subside itself but after a week, we decided to bring her to the dr. She was given some syrup and as expected, she didnt want it. All of us tried to coax her into taking including Jerilyn. This was what Jerilyn said: "It's delicious Mei2. Yummy. See. I also drink." Jerilyn took a sip from the cup and put he thumb up. After a few tries, Mei2 bought her idea. Jerilyn added "Drink it. It's ribena." (Yup, the syrup was red like ribena). I am amazed how persuasive Jerilyn can be.

Jesslyn learned some of Jerilyn's skills including persuading people. However, her's is more like commanding than persuading. For example, the time when Jerilyn had an ulcer in her mouth and medicine was necessary to heal the ulcer. Since young, she was afraid of it and I had to use force every time I applied it. When it was time for her to spit, Jesslyn taught her sister what to do "Spit. spit ar. spit into the basin..... ah... good. ok. good girl. spit. add some water."

In this house, the two girls are bossy in their own way and time. When it is playtime, Jerilyn, who is more innovative, will lead the game and tell Jesslyn what to do. When it is 'I want it this way moment", it's Jesslyn's turn to tell her sister what to do.

As for academic development, Jerilyn hasn't learnt much from school. I believe the kindy doesn't emphasize on academic achievement. Generally, so far, she has learnt to write A to G, counting and writing 1-3 and few lines in Mandarin, which of course she knows very well. I am not very satisfied lessons are carried in the sense that kids at this age should be given more input than output. So far, there is not much story-telling, nursery rhymes and reading. Before they write, they should be taught to read. In conclusion, I am sending her to another kindy next year. At the moment, I have to make up to the kindy's shortfall.
Jesslyn has just begun to show interest with alphabet and numbers. She still cant recognise all the 26 letters but she has more interest now. When we go out and she spots a 'F', she will point to us.

For Memory

Have to write this fast. I have too many backlog of work. One of them is teaching my kids a thing or two. for the past 2 weeks, I have been chasing after my teaching load that I just let my kids waste their time day in and day out. I am only teaching 12 hours/week this semester but as it is a new subject, I have to start from scratch. I am pretty prepared for teaching, now, I have to go back to my kids.

THOugh busy, I must spare a bit of time to jot this:
1. When I said I want to put on a mask, Jerilyn said "No. No. No. I dont want to see a lion."
2. Whn I wrapped my hair with a towel after a shower, Jesslyn said "Eh! You look like a pig."
3. When I told Jerilyn not to rub her dirty hands against her face or pimples would grow on her face, she askd "Just like you?"

Grrr...

4th Birthday

This was our plan for Jerilyn's birthday:

26th - Dinner at Secret Reciple because it has everything we want - scrumptious food, cake and ice-cream.

27th - Drive up to Genting Highlands and spend 2 nights on the hill. The highlights would be the Theme Park of course. But this time, it would be more fun as Jesslyn is old enough to know what is going on around her. The last time we went, she only joined the rides but seemed oblivious to them. I can imagine how they will scream and laugh this time. Even riding on sloopy and winding roads in our car give them the thrill.

29th - Return to Ipoh and prepare for CNY.

This was what happened:

26th night - Dinner at Ye'olde English because Secret Recipe doesn't offer any main courses that Jerilyn likes. However, our experience at Ye'olde English was a disappointment AGAIN. Yup. Made the same mistake.

27th - Jerilyn went to school. Daddy went to work for more than 12hours and Mummy attended a meeting in the college. We cut the cake in the evening and had dinner with Gong Gong.

28th - Got up at 8am and got ready. Eve

Everyone was ready except dear Daddy. He had to prepare an urgent report. The 3 of us waited patiently. At 9am, he received a call from his mother saying that his SIL passed away. Daddy wanted to cancel the trip but I persuaded him to go. We can drive down to JB after our trip to Genting. He relented. Phew! So, we packed for another day. Started our journey at 10am. Reached there at 2pm. It was one of the coldest experience there. So cold that none of us had our shower that day. The theme park outdoor was closed because of the mist. We paid RM88 for indoor. Went on a couple of train-like rides, carousel, ferris-wheel and the gondola. Even Jerilyn said "This train is so slow." This was how much fun we had. :-) Nevertheless, the kids are happy with the outing.

29th - Headed down to JB and returned to Ipoh the next day. These 2 days alone, we spent > 8hours in the car, ONE way. Thank god the kids did not give me any problems. The kids were at their sweetest in JB and got plenty of compliments from relatives. Another Phew!

Home Sweet Home alas, I asked Jerilyn which she prefers, hotel or home. She answered hotel. Why? Because there is no air-cond downstairs at home. Hmm....

Meaningful Remarks

The past few weeks have been a busy period although it's also my semester break. Looking back, I wonder what have I achieved after 4 weeks of break. Anyway, there is nothing worth noting down except for a few quotations I wish to remember. For those who follow FB will find this familiar:

I came back from a new hairstyle and this was what they have to say: Jerilyn "Mummy, you look like a woman. You better stay at home and don't go out. People will laugh at you." Jesslyn "Why is your hair so messy, mummy?" The photo attached was taken a day after I permed my hair. It isn't so bad, is it?

But when Daddy came home with a new haircut, it was a different story. Jerilyn "Wah! Look at the handsome boy! The handsome boy is back."

At the petrol station, Daddy took a phone call and Jerilyn said to him "Daddy, you naughty boy." After a while, "You naughty handsome boy."

Other than that, Jerilyn criticised her teacher twice for 'bad' handwriting. Once, she claimed that '2' looks like '6'. Another time, she claimed the 'LY' in her name looks like 'M'.

My dad told me about his conversation with Jerilyn. It sounds something like this:
Jerilyn: I want to go home to see Mummy.
Gong2: Mummy is at school.
Jerilyn: No. Mummy is not at school. She is not young anymore. She is working. She is an adult.
At home, she took the broom and swept from the masterbedroom, down the stairs and into the dustpan. She told my dad this: Gong2, I am so clever. I sweep the floor because I make Mummy happy.

The best so far is this: "Eh? Why is your UGLY face so PRETTY?" said Jesslyn to Jerilyn.

Weaning off the Pacifier

I have long wanted to wean Jesslyn off the pacifier but it seems more difficult this time because I don't want to disrupt Jerilyn and Hubby's beauty sleep. So, I delayed and delayed. She is 25 months now. Jerilyn was weaned off the pacifier when she was 19months. We didn't have proper sleep for 2 nights.
With Jesslyn, I told myself that I must wean her off during this semester break while I am on holiday. There is no better time than this when Hubby is away on a business trip. Yesterday night, I told her there is no 'chut chut' (as we call it). Surprisingly, she only grumbled "I want chut chut. I want chut chut." a couple of times and twisted and turned for less than 5minutes before she dozed off. It was too easy. :p Why didn't I stop giving her earlier?

Subsequent Schooling Days

A week has passed since Jerilyn started schooling. The first 2 days was fine. No tears. She was jolly about it. In fact, she was also advising her sister this: When you go to school, don't cry ok? I also didn't cry. She boasted that a girl cried and she didn't.
However, on the 3rd night, she started to lose control of herself and lamented that she didn't want bathing in the school, didn't want eating and blah blah blah. She didn't want to study at school but at home. There was no tantrums but sadness in her voice. She pleaded the whole night to stop schooling. When asked why, she came up with stories like 'A girl bullied her' (this is actually Daddy's fault for asking "Did anyone bully you?") and 'The teacher bullied her'.
The next morning, she was whining as expected. I was afraid that she would cause problems for my dad(1st time for him) so I asked Daddy to be late for work to send Jerilyn on that particular day. I, on the other hand, must leave home early for invigilation duty on that day. That night, I made 2 things clear to her:

1. She DOESN'T have to go to school during the weekends
2. Whether she cries or not, she still have to attend classes. No point being unhappy

With these, reality sets in. However, when we talked to her about school, she didn't like to touch the subject. She ignored us or replied "Don't talk about it." She looked gloomy when the subject popped up.
After a long weekend, she whined a bit on Monday. Maybe because she was jolted up from her snooze.
Nevertheless, I am proud she hasn't made a scene in kindy so far. Even though she whines, it's so soft that Jesslyn never gets a rude awakening.

First Day at School

I have always been reluctant to send my kids to kindy. So, when it is ripe for Jerilyn to attend school, it is a big step for me. If it wasn't because of her enthusiasm about school and lack of manpower in baby-sitting the kids, I might delay another year before she attends kindy.

There are 3 kindies around where I live for our convenience and I chose the one which is most sought after. I personally prefer small groups to big groups but the other kindy was a big disappointment.

Hubby and I have been very anxious about her first day even though we know she could handle herself fine and would create a commotion at school. For the past whole month, we prepared her for school by telling her what's going to happen in school and what she needs to do if she requires help. She is very optimistic about school. She calls me 'Teacher' at home. Yesterday, she told me not to stay at the school but to go to work, come home and change my clothes before I fetch her from school. I was relieved to hear that.

We called it a night earlier yesterday but only managed to dozed off at the usual hour (>11.00pm). I intended to wake up at 740am but when morning comes, what woke me up was my dad's call to ask if he needs to look after Jesslyn. The call was at 8.00am. My alarm didn't sound. I jolted Jerilyn. It didnt take me long to wake her up. Her only complaint was she had no energy to walk. So, I had to carry her from room to toilet etc... The moment she was dressed in her uniform and VOILA!!! She changed into another person. From a sleepy, energyless kid into a energetic one. I prepared milk in a bottle for her to drink in the car. She said "Dont bring this bottle to school. Shame shame. Drink this at home. Nobody knows. Take the tumbler to school." OK..... Fine. I never thought she remembers our advice. I took a few photos of her and sent her to school at 8.20am.

At school, I didn't have the chance to go into the building. The teacher said "Ok, Mummy. We will take it from here." She led Jerilyn into the house. I began to walk out but I turned around and saw that she was looking at me too as she was being led away. We didn't say anything to each other. Not even Goodbye. I was told not to bid farewell or things will turn bad. I held my tear 'til I reached the car.

Back home, I felt empty. Too free without her. I facebooked and spent the time with Jesslyn. The time was moving slower than normal. When the clock struck 11.00am. I went straight to the kindy and watched her over cctv. There were 2-3 parents with the same intention. A teacher was explaining to her while writing. Jerilyn had her palm on her forehead, fidgeting and scratching her head as if the teacher was teaching Astronomy. This sight is most familiar to me when she lose interest and becomes restless. OMG! Will she want to go to school again tomorrow? Anyway, I left and returned again at 1.00pm.

In the car, here are some of the things I get:

Did you tell teacher when you want to shee2? What did you say? Yes teacher. My guess is the teacher might have asked them, thus this reply.

What have you learnt? ABC

Have you taken lunch? I eat rice. Then, we go swimming(bathe) and brush our teeth.

Do you want to go to school? Yes

and the list goes on.

At home, she is her old self. It looks like I have nothing to worry about tomorrow.

Goodbye 2010, Welcome 2011

As 2010 is coming to an end, I begin to reflect on what 2010 has been for me. Overall, I have mixed feelings towards this year. I have had my worst and best moments.
The beginning of the year had been the most stressful and distressing period of my life. Then, the period of self-pity, soul-searching and reflecting my life. Now, almost a year later, I have accepted the fact that 'what has to go, has to go'. There is just no turning back. Self-pity is self-destruction. There are many more unfortunate people out there. I began to understand this after reading news about deaths of youths, esp my own student. I also heard stories from students who had lost their parents at a young age of 4 and another 2 lost their parents too this year.
As compared to them, I had 33 years with my mum. It was not enough but again, I have to let go.
The kids still often talks of their Po-Po especially Jerilyn. Out of nowhere, she will ask questions like:

• Do you love Po2?
• Why is Po2 in the church?
• Who bought this? Is it Po2?

So, that was my worst moment. My best moments are definitely related to the children.
Jerilyn @ 4yo,

• she is more mature, understanding and caring. She gives in to her sister to avoid getting ear-splitting screams. She 'saved' her sister by pulling her back when she saw me in the car while they were playing the compound (my dad was in the house). When I scold Jesslyn, Jerilyn will stand up for her "Mummy don't scold her. Next time, I don't want you. Mei2, don't cry."
• she can read (I presume > 400words)

Jesslyn @ 2yo , the greatest development should be these:

• from baby-talk to a little conversationalist. Recently, she likes to play pretend call "Hello Daddy? Jie2 finish the papaya. Buy burger for me. Huh? Huh? Thank you Daddy. Thank you Daddy. Byee.." She can explain her actions/choices "I am scared of the clown. That's why I cry." "I don't want (this dress). It's too tight." "I want to boo-boo. I have stomachache."
• from diaper dependent to 100% toilet trained

I have put down a short list of resolutions and to-do list for 2011. I hope to achieve them as I have achieved my 2010 list. Welcome 2011!!!

Jesslyn @ 2yo

Jesslyn has just turned 2 on the 8th December. There wasnt any party except for a quiet dinner at Folie Folie on the night before and a cake on the actual date.

2 short years have passed and she is still very much the baby I held in my arms 2 years back. Here are some of the things she could do/say:

• Talks very well and uses long sentences. Just today, sis was disturbing, she scolded "Hey, dont disturb me. I am doing my work." (She was scriblling on Jie2's book).
• She sings very well. She sees a kettle in a book and she starts "Polly put the kettle on... " While her hands are at work, she entertains herself by singing. She is also flexible in changing the lyrics. For example, the song 'I see the moon and the moon sees me', she goes "I see Gong Gong, I see Mummy..."
• Potty-trained. Must add that accidents still happen. With Jerilyn, we were braver by letting her go diaper-free during the nights but with Jesslyn, we are more cautious.
• Jumps and climbs.
• Other than Wh- Questions, she also uses "Can" types of questions - "Can I go down?", "Can I have water?"
• Can recite all the letters in the alphabet and numbers up to 20.

Some of the things she still needs guidance are:

• recognising letters in the alphabet - she particularly likes 'J'. Show her any letter, she says 'J'
• recognising numbers
• confused with certain animals

Quotations

Meant to be posted 2 months ago but something held me back:

• While I was driving down a slope speedily, Jesslyn exclaimed "Be careful! Mummy.... Be careful! Mummy..."
• While shopping on 1 particular day, Jesslyn was being grumpy. Daddy scolded her twice and for both times, she sang to herself after being scolded.While waiting to pay at the cashier, Jesslyn held out her hand and said "Give me some money."
• Seeing angry/sad expressions on people, Jesslyn would ask "Why she(always she) so sad?" or "Why she cry?"
• When Jesslyn was proud of her sis, she showed me a puzzle "There.... Jie2 fix this. Jie so clever."
• When it irritates Jesslyn "Hey, dont sit here." "Hey, stop playing." "Hey, don't shout."
• When she is persistent "Mummy, sit here" Nobody answers. "Mummy, sit here!!" Silent. "I saaidd SIT HEREee!!"
• Jesslyn uses 'Today', 'Yesterday' in her sentences but it's not always used correctly.
• Looking at a mini poster of S.H.E.(the Taiwan group), Jerilyn said there are 2 girls. I asked "Are you sure? How many girls are there?" She repeated "2 girls." "What about this 1?" "It's a boy."(Referring to the 'tomboy')
• Jerilyn talks to objects and insects:
• to an insect "You go away. I don't want you. I will beat you. Go away."
• to an object "Don't fall down. You stay there. Be good."
  

Getting Ready for School

I occasionally buy workbooks for Jerilyn to practise writing. However, her interest lasts as long as the smell of a new book. After writing and scribbling few pages, her interest fades and the book has to be shelved for at least a week before one day, she happens to spot it from the shelf and starts scribbling again. This is so except for the 2 books which I bought about 2 weeks ago.
The moment I bought the books, she has been doing the exercises non-stop. She is so engrossed with the exercises that she spends 2-3 hours each night on the exercises. On the first night, she didnt even have breaks in between. I was the one who had to stop her as my eyes were already drooping. When it is time for bed, she insists on taking the books with her into the bedroom and won't stop writing 'til we turn off the lights. She is so into it that right after waking up from her afternoon naps, she says "I go down to do my work, ok?" There was once she immediately sat and started doing the exercises the moment we came home from shopping.
The 2 books are published in Singapore. I have a few books of my own which were bought in Singarpore many years back and indeed, there are still one of my favourites. These 2 books are as appealing to my daughter as those books to me. In short, Singapore published books have better quality thus more appealing to readers?
It seems like she is preparing for school. She always says that she is attending school (soon) and calls me 'Teacher' while she is my student. After each exercise, she wants a star to be given. She thanks me very loudly with full sincerity. When she makes mistakes and doesnt get a star from me, she sulks.
Wondering if most children go through this stage where they show extreme enthusiasm in studying and schooling.

Quiet yet Eventful

Some of you must be wondering where have I been for the past few weeks. No blogs, No Facebooking. Have been as quiet as a mouse on the cyberspace.
Though quiet here, my life has actually been quite busy and eventful. There have been numerous decisions to make in the past month. Firstly, I came across AirAsia's promotion to Australia and was tempted to grasp the cheap air tickets. I finally did after much persuasion from my sis.
Next, I had to decide if I needed to change my car as my hubby complained about the poor condition of my Saga. During the process, we narrowed down to Matrix and Kenari. After 2 weeks, we have decided to go for Kenari as there have only been negative comments for Matrix. I don't want to take the risk.
Other than that, I was also burdened with the decision of where to send Jerilyn for kindergarten. There are two potential kindergartens in my area. 1 has enrolment of 100+ and the other has only 10 kids. I personally prefer small groups to large groups but upon visiting the less populated kindy, I understand why the other is over populated. To me, the main problem is impression. The impression the teachers here gave was unprofessional. Both the teachers I met have long hair and both just let their hair loose. It's alright if they look tidy but sadly, that's not the case. The teacher who entertained me spoke terrible English. It was very Manglish. Moreover, I doubt this kindy has a proper system as overall, there are only 10 kids from all ages.
Last year, this time, we took my mum to Meru Valley Golf and Country Club to check out the plaece. After procrastinating for a year , we had finally taken the trouble to join the club. One of the reasons we join this club is to avoid the congestion in a public pool.
We also booked 2 nights at Resorts Hotel, Genting Highlands in conjunction with Jerilyn's birthday upon coming across another promotion for Genting Club members.
The only mission we have not accomplished is going to Singapore. It's not for leisure but business. However, there are too many activities and going-ons now. I need a break. Need to save some $$ too.

Mozilla vs Explorer

I usually use Explorer when I suft the net. However due to the high recommendation for Mozilla, I sometimes turn to it. It has its advantages over Internet Explorer. What I find peculiar is when I browse my blog, the layout is different from what I did in Explorer. Why? Why? Why?